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2017 Facilitators: Kate & Joel Feldman
Fun, A Key To Being Intimate
People are hardwired for love, empathy, fun, and pleasure. We literally have the capacity built into our brains to connect with each other at very deep levels. And this connection, it turns out, is vital for our immune systems, our longevity, and our sense of well-being.
Once we interviewed an older married couple to ask what their secret was. They had had such a good life. Here is what they told us.
“Compromise,” he said. “I don’t always like what she wants to do, but I have found that listening, and making some part of it work, always enhances our love.“
“Tenderness,” she said. “Stroking his hair at night. Touching him when I walk by and he’s at the kitchen table.“ “Yes, tenderness.” He smiled. And then he added, “You know, we’ve had a lot of fun together.”
“We laugh at ourselves, we tickle each other’s funny bones. We are able to laugh at mistakes, laugh at good movies, and laugh with our grandchildren. Laughter feels real good, even when it’s about the silliest things.“
Then they both began musing about county fairs, a trip to the Grand Canyon, the time a tornado blew through and they had the grandkids with them and everyone spent the night in the basement.
“We brought down marshmallows, chocolate bars, graham crackers, and had cold ‘smores. We laughed about it for months. The tornado did no damage, so we can remember the story with a lot of humor.“
They agreed that a
ll these things sounded so simple, and they got such pleasure from them. He added, with a mischievous grin, “ It also made our sex life real good. “
In our work we discovered that life is foreplay. The little things count far more than you would think: Compromise, tenderness, and laughter, making play out of every day events. This has become one of the core practices of our relationship.