A successful relationship is an intimate team where both people care as much about the other as they do about themselves.
When there are problems each person takes respons-ibility for contributing to the problem, and each person has a part in solving the problem. This requires change from both people. But most of all it requires the willing-ness to go inside and discover the parts of oneself that are getting in the way of connection, love, intimacy, and growth as an individual, and thus, for you as a couple.
After that, what is required is mutual respectful dialogue where both people’s points of views are validated, and where both people allow themselves to be moved by the others’ needs and feelings.
Is it easy to practice all this? Not really, but it is essential. Partners get in their own way due to a number of things, but mostly it’s our struggle to calm ourselves down inside. Reactivity causes the power struggle: “I’m right, you’re wrong”. We often stay stuck arguing about the issue of the day.
But what if it’s not about that? What if it’s about a life long learning process where your partner is teaching you continually about love, team work, compromise, opening the heart, and even the stuff we don’t want to attend to: vulnerability, shame, self doubt, fear. What if we come together to deepen our love, crack open our most tender places, and become magnificent lovers?
Intimacy is not for the faint of heart. But the rewards are richer than you ever imagined!
BCC Veteran’s Challenge:
Five reasons why we go to BCC:
It is a fun weekend away from our daily hubbub.
There is time for us to connect at a deep level, often more than we were expecting to learn or understand about each other.
We gain tools and ideas for nurturing our relationship year round.
The weekend vibe is positive, as everyone is focused on their long-term relationship.
Did we mention it is a FUN weekend? ~ See you there, Wendy & Bob
Recent BCC Promotion
The Banff Couples Conference Society hit the rolled up its sleeves last month volunteering and running a booth at the Calgary Bridal Fantasy show. BCC postcards were added to all 1200 bridal gift bags and a booth allowed us to contact hundreds of people and directly p romote the Banff Couples Conference.
T here was a lot of interest in our event, not just from brides-to-be, but also their fiancés, friends and parents. Some comments included: “My parents would love this!”, “I think we should go and bring our parents!”, “This would be a great way to start off your marriage!”. At the end of the day we had 80 individuals sign up for the BCC newsletter and many more who left interested in the event.
It is great to have postcards in public areas but BCC gets the majority of its attendees through personal referrals. This event allowed BCC committee members to personally invite hundreds of people to the event. We’ll be tracking to see the impact in reservations for 2017 and 2018 from this event. If you know of other events where we may have a similar impact please contact firstname.lastname@example.org
Everyone Wins With Referrals
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March 3-5, 2017 Conference in Lake Louise
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